Back to school during COVID19: Tips for parents and caregivers
It’s the end of summer and going back to school is challenging now more than ever as we are returning to school under COVID-19. Many parents and caregivers are feeling unsure, overwhelmed and anxious.
School boards across the country are now planning for a return to school for fall 2020. Many school boards are offering parents/caregivers the option between:
- Returning students physically back to school (ranging from part-time to full-time).
- Keeping your child at home and continuing with virtual schooling.
- A combination of physical return and virtual schooling.
Unsure or confused on deciding what to do?
Reasons to attend school include:
- Your child learns best when physically present at school.
- Your child benefits from seeing peers and participating in other school activities, such as gym arts, music, school extra-curriculars.
- If you child is in school full time, you can go to work and support your family financially.
- Schools can provide access to meal programs and other services.
Reasons to avoid physical return to school:
- Your child (or someone living at home such as a parent or sibling) has an underlying condition (or age) that increases the risk for severe illness from COVID-19.
- The level of community spread is high in your area (which increases the risk of COVID-19).
Reasons to consider virtual schooling from home:
- Your child has someone that can supervise them at home.
- Your child has access to reliable technology (such as internet) for your child’s virtual learning.
- Your child’s virtual learning option gives opportunities for real-time interactions with the teachers (e.g., have live instruction).
- Your child’s maturity and learning style are sufficient for virtual learning.
Back to school tips:
Here are some tips that may be helpful as the school year starts, whether or not your child will be returning to school physically or virtually.
- Continue to encourage your child or youth to stay social with their friends and peers. This will help them feel more connected by the time they get back to school. Ideally this involves face-to-face connections outside, as per COVID-19 physical distancing.
- If they can’t meet face-to-face, try a video call or even write a letter to a friend.
- Gradually get back into school year structure and routines. Bring up the topic that summer is coming to an end and that school will be restarting.
- Talk about routines. You might say: “Hey guys, with COVID-19, you’ve had a lot more screen time than usual, but now that school is starting up again, we’re going to get back into our old routine… “
- Set a bedtime (and/or wake up time) and move it closer to what it should be for the school year.
- Set a screen curfew (a “downtime” after which point there are no screens).
- Ask about routines to continue. “What new COVID-19 routines would people like to continue during the school year? For example, regular family walks after dinner; family movie night, bike rides, etc.
- Write down the new school-year schedule, to help children visualize and understand their daily routine.
Some children will be able to wear masks easily, but others may have a harder time. Consider the following exposure and desensitization strategies.
- Are you buying a mask? Try giving your child some of the newer child-friendly designs to choose from or get them to help decorate a pre-made mask.
- Are you making a mask? Let your child choose the material.
- Teach distraction strategies like distracting with music, videos, video games to help pass the time while wearing a mask.
- Practice calming strategies like deep breathing, going outside, going for a walk, etc.
- Consider motivating kids to get used to wearing a mask by pairing it with something they enjoy, like allowing video game time (within your limits) while wearing their mask.
- Does your child or youth still have struggles with mask wearing, despite your best efforts? Consider seeing your health-care provider to see if there might be other options, including seeing if your child may have a valid medical exemption.
Help your child continue to cope:
- Stay connected to your kids. Kids do best when they feel loved by their caregivers, which happens when you spend quality time with them and listen, validate and empathize with their feelings (as opposed to seeing adults as being angry, upset, and emotionally unavailable to them).
- Model healthy coping. Kids do best when they learn healthy ways to cope with adversity, such as following public health recommendations with masks and physical distancing (as opposed to unhealthy strategies such as focusing on negatives and blaming).
- Attach positive meaning to the pandemic. Kids do best when they can have a positive meaning of a situation. You might say: “On one hand, this pandemic has not been easy but on the other hand, we’ve been able to have a lot more fun times together.
Ease your child’s worries:
- Ask about their fears and try to reassure or problem solve. Ask: “What worries you the most?”
- Validate and accept your child’s feelings about the situation. You might say: ” “I can see why you might be feeling (insert your child’s feelings here) about this.”
- Give your child a sense of control – open up the lines of communication.
- Try giving your child a sentimental object that reminds them of you, e.g. a photograph, a special piece of jewelry or a small toy that they can carry with them in their backpack.
- Try to listen without interrupting.
The first week back to school:
- Time management is key. Leave earlier than usual and whether you are driving, or simply dropping off your kids at the bus stop, this will give you more flex time.
- Consider working a shorter day on the first day/week back to school, so that you can pick them up and support them getting used to the new routine.
- Establish a goodbye ritual. When its time to say goodbye to your child, give them a final hug, kiss, say goodbye, and talk about when you’ll see them next. Don’t just say “Goodbye!”, bridge the separation by talking about when you will see them next.
- Once you’ve dropped off your child try to take some time just for yourself, whether it’s going for a walk, to the coffee shop, having tea with a friend, or just going home to nap or watch TV.
- Check in with your children about how the day went. If your child isn’t ready to talk, then ask them later when they are ready. You might ask: “How did your day go?” “How did it go with wearing your mask and keeping away from people and all that?” “What was hard, what was easy?”
- If they are sad, validate the sadness: “I can see you are feeling sad and it’s ok to cry. I’m going to miss you too.” Offer comfort like a hug or offering a tissue.
Remember: Every child and situation are unique. Touch base with your school staff to get added support as needed.