Communication is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Healthy communication lets individuals to deal with conflict better and help them to build stronger relationships.
We often do not know what healthy communication is and how we can use it in our partnerships.
Communication is the tool to express yourself to someone else and allow that person to gain understanding about your feelings in order to meet your needs.
What is healthy communication? And, how can we use healthy communication to increase intimacy and connection in our relationships?
It is important to know that no matter how much you know your partner, still you need to communicate clearly. Nobody is a mind reader, so being able to identify your feelings clearly and talk openly about your feelings is a key piece in successful relationships.
Healthy communication requires time and practice.
Couples need to be clear when communicating with each other to make sure their partners will receive and understand their message correctly. Clear communication styles talk about what their needs and feelings using ‘I’ statements like ‘I feel’ or ‘I want’.
Each partner in a relationship needs to accept responsibility for their own feelings.
Being an active listener and putting aside your own judgement for a moment to have a better understanding of your partner’s intentions and feelings is key. A good listener would encourage others to talk openly. People who are a good listeners maintain eye contact, have an open and relaxed body posture, and are open to hearing their partner with understanding.
Being aware of your body language and tone of voice is very important for having a clear communication. Your body gesture, tone of voice and even your facial expressions could transfer a message to others which may not be match with what you are verbally saying.
If it is difficult for you to talk about your emotions and you are not comfortable to express your needs clearly, you might find it helpful to talk to a counsellor because an open and clear communication style can be learnt.
Psycho-educational counselling offers a place for you to become aware of your communication style, learn communication skills to better express what you are feeling, and to develop a greater connection with those you love.